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About me.

Rewriting this from scratch again, because a fair bit has changed.

Hey everyone. I'm Raven. And I'm me. That's about the only thing that stays consistent, but many of these other things have been true for a while as well, even if I haven't always acknowledged as such on the surface.

I'm non-binary, and use they/them pronouns. Basically, that means that I don't fit easily in the gender boxes of male and female. My body and biology are male, and I'm fairly comfortable with that at the moment. But my gender expression is fairly flexible and fluctuating, particularly now as I'm experimenting and discovering what I'm comfortable with.

I'm also queer. To be specific, I think the term I've found that is closest to where I sit is omniromantic pansexual. To explain that a bit more deeply - when it comes to romantic attraction, I tend to be more commonly attracted to people that present in a more feminine way. As people present in more masculine ways, I'm less likely to be romantically attracted to them, though it's still quite possible - just not as likely. When it comes to sexual attraction, your gender or sex or bits that you have basically don't affect that much whether I'm attracted to you or not; or, at least, no more than a hundred other things do. It's not the defining aspect of sexual attraction.

And I'm polyamorous. While I've never been in a poly relationship, I do know myself rather well (it comes from spending a lot of time with myself, and being remarkably introspective). And I know that how I'm wired works naturally with poly relationships, where I'm connecting to multiple people, and not trying to fill all my sexual or romantic needs with just one person.

I'm a creative person - a musician, an actor, a writer (goodness, really?), a singer, a poet, a songwriter, and I've occasionally had a go at directing theatre or making board games. I also rather enjoy dancing.

I'm also a deep thinker. My brain is whizzing at about a million miles a minute most of the time, and most things I talk about I've thought about for quite some time. Of course, I can also be somewhat impulsive at times, which means I can do things without thinking, and make mistakes. Go figure. But I enjoy philosophising and the like quite a bit.

I'm a people person. I really value relationships and connections with other people, and get plenty of joy out of that. I'm a hugger too. I prefer one-on-one catch-ups to large parties and the like, though.

I'm autistic. What does that mean? Kind of a lot, but essentially it means that I have to work a lot harder at things like interpreting emotional communication (body language etc), and many societal subtleties and the like that seem obvious to most people aren't obvious to me, and often seem absurd. I can tend to get into cycles of doing the same thing very easily - but also find that rather boring at times. I can be very good at things most people aren't, and be very not good at things most people are. I also get annoyed at arbitrary boxes that society creates and places much too much importance on (like gender).

I'm pretty big on a lot of justice issues - climate justice, racial justice, justice for women, for the disabled, for LGBTQIA+, for the persecuted, for the marginalised. There's a lot of wrong in this world, and I don't think that's going to change unless we start doing something about it, and making some noise.

And I'm also a Christian. Hopefully from what I've said so far, you'll know that I'm not a typical Christian - and hopefully that will be obvious from what I write. Yes, I believe in God, and I try to follow Jesus in my life - but what that looks like is probably a bit different to your usual experience of Christianity.